Benefits of habit “Change your speech to positive”

✓ Boosts self-esteem
✓ Discourages feeling like a victim
✓ Increases confidence
✓ Creates positive outlook
✓ Relieves stress

First step:

Say “I will figure it out” 1 time today

Progress:

1. Today, when you feel like you don’t know something, don’t say “I don’t know”, instead, say “I will figure it out”. Do this every day for one week. More variations on this in tips for beginners.
2. Next week, add another new way of saying “I can’t” – say “I won’t” instead, indicating your own choice.
3. Keep adding, until the way you speak is positive and filled with your own choices.

Helpful tips to make it a habit:

✓ Trigger your mind. Actively try to be mindful of the way you speak. Each time you want to say something in response to a situation, think before you say and how you say it. Put on a new bracelet or carry a stress ball in your pocket as triggers to remind you of your new speech pattern. In time, you brain will rewire itself to think differently.
✓ Let the app help. Set the reminder of this app to signal to you every morning that today is another day where you will be speaking differently.
✓ Reward yourself. Once you’ve gone through a month of noticeable improvement on your positive speech pattern, reward yourself by trying a new activity. Now you indeed can and will do it, so enjoy the benefits of your new habit to the fullest!

Tips for beginners:

✓ It doesn’t take much. To make your speech pattern more positive doesn’t take much, but it can change a lot. Research has shown that the way we speak influences our mindset, so changes can affect you positively, if you will put in the effort.
✓ Little does a lot. Instead of “I can’t” say “I won’t”. Instead of “I don’t know” say “I will figure it out”. Or instead of “I have to” say “I am going to”.
It’s about control. All these changes put the will of the action into your hands and let you have the control of what you want to do. You will no longer be the victim of circumstance. Remember that.
✓ Write it all down. Observe your speech patterns and every time you notice negatives that come out, write them down and think how you could change them into positives, or at least neutrals.